Your choice
Getting a positive pregnancy test result can trigger a number of reactions, emotions and questions, whether the pregnancy was planned or not. It's perfectly normal to feel confused and ambivalent about the outcome of your pregnancy.
Now, you’re faced with three options: continuing the pregnancy with the aim of becoming a parent, terminating the pregnancy (abortion), or continuing the pregnancy with the aim of giving the child up for adoption. All these choices are equally valid. The best decision will be the one you make based on your situation at this particular time in your life.
That said, navigating through your own reality, emotions, uncertainties, questions, beliefs and values, as well as those of others involved in the pregnancy, can sometimes be complex.
There are a number of resources available to help you make the right choice about the outcome of your pregnancy.
A Grossesse-Secours counsellor is also available by phone, chat or in person to listen, support, inform and accompany you, no matter where you are in your journey.
Decision-making handbook
Here's a handbook to help you with pregnancy-related ambivalence. This handbook, which you can consult on your own or with your partner(s), offers some food for thought to help you make a free and informed decision about the outcome of your pregnancy. It covers five areas of your life to to get an overall picture of your current situation.
Your choice, our listening services
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Continuing a pregnancy
Continuing a pregnancy is a choice. Each pregnancy is unique depending on the needs of the parents. Several options for managing your pregnancy exist. -
Abortion
Abortion is a safe, legal and accessible option in Canada. You have the right to receive accurate and complete information about abortion if you are considering this option. -
Adoption
You can also decide to carry the pregnancy to term and then give the child up for adoption.
Frequently Asked Questions
I'm pregnant, and I don't know what to do.
It’s normal to feel ambivalent about pregnancy. Feeling ambivalence means that you're hesitating between options when it comes to pregnancy. Each situation of ambivalence is unique and experienced differently from one person to another. Ambivalence is more common than you think. It’s normal to ask yourself questions when you're concerned about your well-being and that of your partner(s) and about the best choice for yourself.
Talking to one of our counsellors can help you better understand your thoughts on the outcome of your pregnancy so that you can make a free and informed decision.
Does everyone in this situation feel indecisive?
Yes, it can happen to anyone! Whether you're going through your first pregnancy or you're already a parent, anyone can feel ambivalent about this situation.
That's why we encourage you to seek support from people you trust or from pro-choice organizations such as Grossesse-Secours.
Who has the final say on the outcome of my pregnancy?
Only the person who is pregnant can decide the outcome of the pregnancy. It's your body, and therefore your choice. Women and people with a uterus can choose IF and WHEN they want children.
Your partner(s) or family may also feel affected by the final decision. You may be influenced by the people around you and their opinion may be important to you. However, the final decision always rests with the person who is pregnant.
What about my partner(s)?
Although partners cannot make the final decision about the outcome of a pregnancy, they can get involved or help with the decision-making process. They can share their reactions, emotions and questions about the pregnancy in a respectful and open manner. Each partner can also determine which role he or she will play, depending on the pregnant person's choice.
One of our counsellors is available to listen to you without judgment. Don't hesitate to contact us.
